See What Happened When R. Kelly Confronts Relative About Sexual Abuse
In a new interview with GQ, R. Kelly sat down with writer Chris Heath, and agreed not to hold back and to reveal his truths. Although there are many moments where it is obvious that R. Kelly holds back, and even admits that he won’t talk about specific things, Kelly was straightforward about his sexual experiences as a child. We covered this aspect of R. Kelly’s life sometime ago, as some details were covered in his book, “Soulacoaster”.
In this interview, R. Kelly seems comfortable talking about his sexual experiences as a child and the shocker here is that R. Kelly believes the sexual abuse he suffered is something that is passed down from generation to generation, so that in each new generation, victim becomes perpetrator.
Kelly faced challenges. He grew up without a father, gone before Kelly was born, and his mother wouldn’t talk about him. “That’s the one thing,” he says to me. “If I could change anything, I would definitely have had a father around. My father. I would definitely say it affected me deeply as a young man, coming up. Who doesn’t want a father? Those are the beginnings, and those are what can dictate the roads you choose in life, and choosing them well. And it affected me.”
Kelly had a deep, close relationship with his mother, but he says even she never knew everything that was going on in her young son’s turbulent life. He says that until he mentioned it in his 2012 memoir, Soulacoaster, he had never told anyone at all about the sexual abuse that he experienced. (Not even his ex-wife Andrea? “Absolutely not.”) It was something he “put so far in the back of my mind that I even forgot about it.” This wasn’t the history he wanted for the person he was becoming: “As I got older, the more I just didn’t want it to be in my past. The more I became successful.” He was determined that the R. Kelly the world would know—the one who would sell more than 30 million albums, have 36 Billboard Hot 100 hits, invent his own strange musical language, write hits for countless others, and conceive one of the weirdest syntheses of video and music of all time, Trapped in the Closet—would be someone else. “I didn’t want that to be something that was in my luggage once I got to my success home, so to speak.”
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In the book, he describes a number of premature sexual experiences, including an approach by a trusted family friend, a man, who he says tried to persuade Kelly to masturbate him for money, which Kelly says he rebuffed. “It was a crazy weird experience,” he tells me. “But not a full-blown experience, because it didn’t go down. Contact sexual—no. A visual—absolutely. A visual from him showing me his penis and all that stuff.” But he describes in his memoir how the full-on sexual abuse that lasted for several years (it was oral sex the first time, though he tells me it soon became intercourse) started one day when Kelly fell asleep in front of the TV and was awoken from “a crazy dream about Three’s Company” to find a woman playing with him:
I tried to push her away, but she wouldn’t stop until she was finished. When she was, she said, “You better not say shit to no one or else you gonna get a terrible whupping.”
Kelly faced challenges. He grew up without a father, gone before Kelly was born, and his mother wouldn’t talk about him. “That’s the one thing,” he says to me. “If I could change anything, I would definitely have had a father around. My father. I would definitely say it affected me deeply as a young man, coming up. Who doesn’t want a father? Those are the beginnings, and those are what can dictate the roads you choose in life, and choosing them well. And it affected me.”
